I've been listening to sermon about friendship. I'm learning and trying to understand about true friendship and it's principles. This evening, I went to a restaurant, Shogun, a Japanese buffet restaurant. It's one of my customer's restaurant. I was with my family for dinner, and at the same time.. we're planning to get the place set up with Digital Signage System. So when I arrived at the restaurant, waiting for the food to be served. And at the table there's this some sort of a brochure. I was surprised! Cause on piece of paper, I never knew that there's "Christian" word of wisdom / encouragement. So I guess my customer / owner of this restaurant must be a believer. And each table has different message. My mum was like amazed too...so she decide to keep it and bring it home. But this brochure, that's on my table.. it helps me to comprehend more of what I've been learning for the past 3 months. Here is what it says:
Friend......
They love you,
but they are not your lover
They care for you,
but they are not from your family
They are ready to share your pain,
but they are not in your blood relation.
They are.... FRIENDS ! !!!!
True friend....
Scolds like a DAD..
Cares like a MOM..
Teases like a SISTER..
Irritates like a BROTHER..
and finally loves U more than a LOVER.
HOLD a true friend and don't let go for a true friend comes once in a lifetime.
LOL... after reading this.... I thought all I did this time was wrong. Scolds like a father, cares like a mother.. I thought that's not the way of any relationship should be.
But in the principles of true love is like more than a true friend. Someone who can guide, cultivate, encourage, everything that's positive to a person, not negative. Yes.. we don't like to be scolded or nagged. But people meant well for us. Especially our parents... yet those true friends will do the same.
Now I understand that, many people asked God to help them change themselves. But they never knew that when the change comes. They aspect changes will be what they aspect it to be. They thought that the process of change would be easy. Example, you've been asking God to help you change your very bad habit, like not brushing your teeth when you're gonna go to bed. So you've been asking God to help with that. But you just can't aspect God to just change you immediately after your prayer... I only works if you're willingly to let him change yourself. Maybe the 1st 3 nights you're doing fine and you remember. on the 4th night maybe you forget. You're on your bed already and then your mum comes in and reminds you to brush your teeth. You'll feel irritated. But nono...that's not irritation that's help from God. So remember if you've asked for change... 1st always remember to be willingly to be change. Even if you're doing bad in your relationship. You've asked for change, always remember to 1st have the mindset to change yourself. Then the other image will see different in you, and he/ she will also change. It would be better, if you're able to fast and pray during this season of change. And get the correct teachings and knowledge. And I guarantee you that you'll be better person. Change is good. =)
Yes.. friends, there are humans too. Humans are made to be socialize creature. Not all friends we know very well. We won't know their standard and influences. Cause everyone comes from different backgrounds. That's why the longer you know the person the more expose they are to you. Then you'll start to judge people. And you'll be thinking that from the beginning this person is like a nice fruit cake. But after months, you see that the person slowly changes and they exposes their real colors. Some "friends" will end up betraying you. And you say... eee. But you'll never know that you've been influenced by that person. That's why there are many friends, but true friends are very few, or as the matter of fact it's rare. That's why it says true friends comes in a lifetime. If you have lots of friends, and you trying to fit in with them, you'll be blinded by them, cause you won't be able to see true friends. Mostly true friends are the ones who are having the same standards of your family standards. True friends loves the other true friend, just the way they are. If you don't really understand your own culture at home/ honor / respect, than it's just like not loving your own-self. Then you won't really see who your true friends are. That's why if you wanna have true friends, 1st you gotta love your own self 1st.( That means love your home, love, enjoy it, understand it appreciate it ) Enjoying your own company. Then you'll be able to enjoy people's company / people enjoy your's.
So it's always important to have true friends, for those who can improve you, cultivate you and cares for you. True friend is a blessing from God.
" Just wanna say I love my friend ! " =)
