Monday, March 19, 2012

Girls needs

12:45am , another 3 more hours till daily jogging routine. I'm sitting in on the floor, trying to understand how a girl feels. Someone special who is 420km away from where I am now. sigh... many of my friends were thought that I was insane. Being in a distance relationship with a girl, that hardly I could meet up with. We're only able to communicate through cell phone and Skypes video calls or other social applications. Yeah we've been back together again for quite some time now, probably 1 year +. Still moving going on... Hoping to go out for a date soon. =) Some people ( I don't wanna say names ) was like: "hey come on, you could get another nice girl out there. There's tons of girls that you could meet up with almost every day. Why would u wait her for, how many guys would even wait for a girl that long? Come on waiting sucks." Some even said: "come on chill out go and get some fun, get over to Su-ngai Kolok, which is a main order town of Malaysia-Thailand Border in Narathiwat Province, Thailand. ( just 45 min drive, besides... As a Kelantanese I have the privilege of getting over there with a border pass ) Head down there and meet up few chicks for the night." Imbeciles! I told myself like I'm gonna do such sin! I can't even do that to her! I'm a man of God I don't do such things. Like they're loyal to their girlfriend. Sometimes I just feel like, yeah there's plenty girls out there... why is has to be just her? I'm not getting the respect that I need. Does she even understand what respect to a man means? She's still young. Well.. does those any other girls knows what respect means?

Well I guess it's definitely worth the wait till her parents know and approve this relationship. And I don't mind waiting for her to slowly understand the love for a man need. Not every girl friend or wives knows that...  Well very few if I could put it that way. Not every man knows the true meaning of love to a woman. Everything takes time, I'll be patient. Yeah I admit, many man ain't no patient guy. Not many wanna wait this long. But I got to be one for her, cause I've already made promise to her. See... That someone special, she is a blessing to me, and forever is. If I'm gonna give up on her, I'l never be a blessing to her or she won't be a blessing to me. Although, there are some difficulties in this relationship, but at least I'm trying to appreciate. Cause I don't wanna go back to the trauma again, break up sucks. So now... I'm learning whatever I could learn from my parents and whatever information I could get from relationship counselor/ teacher and learn to apply it. So chin-up! I'm waiting for ya. You're never alone. <3

Great... I got get back to sleep soon... brothers, you know what? Girls has needs, what kind of needs? Affection, they really desire to have that beautiful relationship that they always dream of. Sometimes women really demands something from her husband that he can't afford to give, and the wife attacks the husband, abused him. Hit him with hard objects, throw things at him. Demanding a big banglo, nice car, nice dress and whatever she wants that her friends has. I've witness things like this. And wasn't long ago, just happened recently, in Penang, Malaysia. Why women are like that? Dr Myles Munroe has taught me that this is their nature, cause "most" women saw whatever her friends has, and they want it too. Things like, going to some places, house, car, dress, shoe, or whatever it is, they want it too. They would feel jealous. It's a normal thing. And most importantly for us men, it's a hint. It's just that, girls would need to learn to control those emotions/ feeling. How? That's when we men comes in.

Although, maybe we men can't afford things that women wants or be with them. We gotta encourage them saying: hold on baby, we're gonna get there/ you're gonna get it. ;)

Woman don't just demand, encourage the man too. After working hard in the field, if you're staying in a small house and wanted a bigger house. Don't just say negative things and destroy man's pride. You can't say: hey I want a bigger house. Why are you not working hard! Look at my friend's husband! He is able to buy a big house. You're stupid or what!? Sigh, that's why... many men doesn't wanna go home at night, cause their wives demands for something like that. Come sister Support him! Be positive, tell him:  Yeah baby! I know that we're gonna get bigger house baby. You could do it, I know you could! ;)

My dad told once, son relationship is about a team. Not a individual thing. Work as a team and think as a team. Relationships are suppose to be fun. Remember whatever it is both players plans every move, not one. She has her opinion, you have yours. Plan with her, make it one. That's how it should be.

Take my mum as an example, ( I've studied my parents ) you see .. if my mum wants something or wanna do shopping, she would approach my dad and give him a massage and encourage him after a busy day. And surely she'll get to go shopping or things she wanna do. That's my mum. =)

In relationships, there are surely a individual ( men / female ) can't provide. It's just because they don't know how to. Maybe their parents didn't taught them things like certain proper behavior like respecting or whatever you name it. It's just because they don't know how to. Don't blame them. Take time and patiently  cultivate them. Not all family teachings or customs are 100% the same or correct. But it's important that you should remember to choose whatever you've been taught since young, is correct. Then mix it up with your partners customs and teaching, and make a better home.

I guess i better head to bed now.

Ps. Now, you can't give whatever you need to give. But I know you can, and soon you'll know how to. I know you can do it babe. ;)

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